Terry Evans – Living with change

As you may have noticed with my previous blog-postings, I talk about change and its’ importance. Without change everything remains the same, static, and it does not allow us to sow seeds of creativity into fertile ground. We just end up going round and round in circles like a dog chasing its’ own tail, beating the same old tattoo on a drum that takes us nowhere.  However, it can be a frightening thing to realize that an old way of being no longer serves us. What are the symptoms? We become bored, lose inspiration, motivation, and deny our own creativity.

One thing I have had to learn is to accept that change is necessary in order for me to follow my life’s pathway. These last two years I have gone through a process of re-evaluating many aspects of my life. Realizing those aspects that no longer serve my life’s purpose, and that it is time to allow something new to come in; spiritually, psychologically and practically. I have had to accept that the mind-set and many of the thoughts I have had are now redundant and that is a frightening thing. It leaves a big empty place within when one old structure or way of being is dismantled and a new framework is needed in order for me to begin a new phase of my life. So where am I now? I have reached a crossroads where I ask myself which direction  I should take as an ordinary person, as a company leader and as a medium to update the moral and spiritual values that must go hand in hand with that process.

The myriad of changes I have experienced the last two years have given me huge realizations, and it has put me into a place where I do not have the control that I would like. I call this the crossroad syndrome; a time of not knowing, a time of uncertainty and it can also be a time of vulnerability. It is at this time when we are standing in this place and the winds of change are blowing all around us that many out of fear or lack of self-belief simply give up and return to their cave even though it does not fulfil their lives or their purposes.

So often I hear these words within and from others: “It is difficult. I do not know if I am strong enough to let go.” As I stand in that place, not sure of what is coming next; amidst chaos and confusion I have discovered that these words are important symptoms of change. In the beginning I might not be aware of that my unconscious is working hard to create a new structure that will serve the new phase that is forthcoming, but with time understanding takes its’ place. During that time I just sit and feel my feelings, my confusion and just accept it as it is. Because if I out of panic try to take control over it all and look for answers I will not receive any answers. One day they will instead just float to the surface of my consciousness in a spontaneous way, as an “aha-experience” or people just walk into my life and offer me new challenges that give direction. Then my conscious mind begins to understand how hard the unconscious has been working in order to present these new possibilities, and then it is up to me to accept the challenge of the new possibilities. It is very important to remain steadfast whilst one is experiencing that no-man’s-land or that emotional wilderness and not allow panic or fear to take over.

Feelings carry messages, they are not something to be denied or pushed away. They have their own kind of intelligence. So listen to them and embrace them, but if you go into fear and panic you instead allow them to become the master. Do not send them away, because the more you do it you will deny your own pathway and potential, and remain in a place within yourself that is stagnant and does not offer new opportunities or a way forward.

So chaos is essential before a new structure can take place, but we ourselves are responsible for how we handle that change, no other. I have myself experienced the chaos of change many times and if I had not allowed the process of change guide me through that chaotic period I would not have been where I am today. Every time an old phase ends and a new begins it offers me new avenues to experience and an opportunity to explore new depths to my spiritual potential and my natural intelligence.

/Terry Evans

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